Hi, i need to pass up this essay as my writing assignment. It's graded. Can you give some comment about my essay? My writing is not good. I hope you can help me. Thx =)
We always think that for a happy marriage, the two persons should share many similarities. My parents have been married for 26 years and they have a happy marriage. However, people always curious about the how they can hardly have a quarrel for they are two very different people. Their differences in physical appearance, view towards life as well as personalities are so obvious that even a stranger can see it.
My mother and father are Chinese. But, their facial bone, body size and skin color are in contrast to each other. My father has facial bone of Europeans in which he has big, round eyes with thick eyebrows. His nose is very high as the nose of those western characters. Different from Asian, his skin is fair and slightly pink in color. As for his body size, father has height of 162cm which is below the average height of a normal man. Also, he is very thin and has skinny limbs.
My mother is of the opposite of my dad. She has a typical Asian face with small eyes below her sparse eyebrows. She has low bridge of the nose and the shape of the tip of her nose is as if a red guava. My mother is fatter than my father. She is 60kg in weigh and 170cm tall which is slightly too fat and tall for an Asian woman. Different from my father, my mother has yellow and dark skin like the color of milk chocolate. Her limbs are slightly too long and strong for a woman as a result of hard work in rubber estate during her young age.
Besides physical appearance, they have very different views towards life. My father is a businessman. For him, one should not enjoy his life. In his point of view, Working and earning money is the main purpose of living rather than enjoyment. Consequently, it always takes us a lot of effort to persuade him for a trip to any places with our family during the holiday, even during Chinese New Year celebration. Also, he does not think that one should depend on God in his life. Therefore, religion is not important for him as the success and failures in his life are of the consequences of his actions rather than God's blessings and punishments.
My mother, on the other hand, has a view that one should enjoy his life at the same time he works. For her, earning money is an endless process and money is earned to spend. It is silly to earn a lot of money and store it in the bank without spending it forever. Furthermore, she thinks that spending money is a reward for herself after her hard work. Apart from that, mother always rely on God. In her point of view, God is the controller of our lives. Everything that happens in our lives is of fate and destiny that have planned by God. For this reason, religion is very important in her life.
Lastly, my parents have contrary personalities. My father is a dull man. He is neither romantic nor interesting at all. He never remembers and celebrates our birthday. In fact, he never gives mother a surprise for their marriage anniversary. Also, he is a rigid and strict father for us. He trains us to be discipline and polite to the elder people. He set curfew for us so that we do not come back home late at night. I remember once, my brother and I went back home late. As a result, we were being locked outside of our house until the next morning. So, we shall never make him angry unless we want his serious punishment for our misbehaviors.
As for mother, she is a fun and romantic woman. She holds birthday party for us almost every year and says "It's your birthday! You should celebrate for you have grown up another year!" For their marriage anniversary, she never admonish father for his carelessness. Therefore, she plays the role who gives surprises for father during their anniversaries. Furthermore, she is flexible and adventurous. She understands that teenagers love freedom; therefore, she does not set excessive rules for us. It is not that she is not protective or caring; she has some rules, too, to make sure that we are safe and well-behaved. For instance, we should inform her of the place we go and the people we hang out with if we were to go back home late.
Even though my father and mother are in contrast in many aspects, they have a very happy marriage. So, it can be concluded that the differences between two persons will not be the obstacles in building a happy marriage. I believe it is toleration that allows them to build a strong bond between themselves and leads toward a happy marriage with no quarrels or family issues.
Do you appreciate your parents and treasure your relationship with them? Read what these teens have to say.
Everyone comes from a different family situation, and everyone’s parents are different. Some teenagers think having a relationship with their parents isn’t cool or looks bad to their friends. The gospel teaches otherwise. Families are central to our Heavenly Father’s plan. It is important to realize how your parents have influenced your life, what they have taught you, what their strengths are, and how you can work to gain a better relationship with them. Here are some reflections and some advice from other young men and women on how to appreciate and talk with your parents.
What is something you have learned from your parents?
“I have learned to always enjoy life and to do stuff that makes me happy. I’ve also learned the gospel from them. They also have taught me the importance of getting good grades.”
Genny H., 14, Oklahoma
“I’ve learned to interact with people and always stay calm. My dad is good at that. I can get so mad at him, and he will never get mad back. He’s really taught me to find the best in people and how to stay calm in situations when I want to lose it. I have also learned how to have a good relationship when I’m married. I admire that my parents sometimes act like they’re still dating. I want that when I’m married.”
Dallin J., 17, Missouri
What is something you admire about your parents?
“I admire that my parents work really hard, but then they play hard too. Even though they work a lot, they always make time to have fun with our family. We have both family time and one-on-one time together.”
Kaitlyn J., 15, Oregon
“I admire how strong my parents are in the gospel. We go to all of the Church activities, and they make sure we get there on time. They’re very strong with their Church callings, and that’s a good quality that I admire.”
Kristyn K., 14, Illinois
It is important to realize how your parents have influenced your life, what they have taught you, what their strengths are, and how you can work to gain a better relationship with them.
What has helped you to have a better relationship with your parents?
“My mom always tries really hard to unify our family. She makes sure we try to do as many family activities as possible. Talking with my parents helps too. When I talk to my parents, I tell them pretty much everything I do. They know all about all my friends, so they trust me when I go out with them. They know I won’t do anything that they wouldn’t want me to do.”
Hollie V., 16, South Dakota
“They always like to play with me and make sure they get to spend time with me, so they can influence what I do. That really helps a lot to build our relationship.”
Cody R., 13, Georgia
How are you able to talk to your parents?
“My parents sit me down calmly and we talk things over. I listen to them, and then they listen to what I have to say. Then together we make a decision. Sometimes there is conflict, but it’s easily solved. We just talk things through with each other and go on.”
Carson L., 15, California
“I learned at a young age that it’s a lot easier to get what I want if I compromise. For example, if I tell my parents, ‘I’m going to go do this,’ they tell me no. But if I say, ‘If I do my chores, can I go out?’ I normally get a yes. Also, there are a lot of times that my dad or mom will just take me aside, and I can talk with them a lot easier when it’s just one-on-one.”
Emily J., 16, North Carolina
What advice do you have for youth who are struggling to get along with their parents?
“The best way to improve a relationship is through loving them even if they do something you don’t like or you get angry at them. I think just humbling yourself and giving them a hug and just saying ‘I love you’ is a way to start a relationship if it hasn’t already begun.”
Kristen L., 16, North Carolina
“Let your parents know what’s going on. I figure if I just tell them, I don’t have to worry about getting in trouble.”
Adam M., 17, Pennsylvania
How has the gospel strengthened your family?
“I think having the gospel as the center of our family relationship helps a lot. It makes our family closer because we can talk about and apply the gospel.”
Whitney Harrison, 16, South Dakota
“The gospel really is based upon families. The gospel teaches that families are really important and give life a good structure. So the gospel does help strengthen our family.”
Sebastian D., 14, Georgia
Be Patient with Your Parents
“Be patient with your parents. They love you so deeply. They are emotionally involved with you, and they may become too vigorous as they set their guidelines for you to follow. But be patient. Remember, they are involved in a big do-it-yourself child-raising project, and this is their first time through. They have never raised a child just like you before.
“Give them the right to misunderstand and to make a mistake or two. They have accorded you that right. Recognize their authority. Be grateful for their discipline. Such discipline may set you on the path to greatness.
“Be open with your parents. Communicate with them. Discuss with them your problems” (Boyd K. Packer, “You’re in the Driver’s Seat,” New Era, June 2004, 9).
Thank Your Parents
“Be thankful to your parents, who care so very much about you and who have worked so very hard to provide for you. Let them know that you are grateful. Say thank you to your mother and your father” (Gordon B. Hinckley, “A Prophet’s Counsel and Prayer for Youth,” New Era, Jan. 2001, 8).
Help Improve Your Relationship with Your Parents
Having problems in your relationship with your parents? The New Era has printed numerous articles on this topic. To find out more, try reading some of these at newera.lds.org:
- “Questions and Answers,” New Era, Feb. 2008, 14. (Sometimes my mom and I don’t get along. We say things we shouldn’t and end up with hurt feelings. I pray to love her, but the good feelings last only so long. What can I do to improve our relationship?)
- “Questions and Answers,” New Era, Feb. 2004, 16. (What can I do to stay close to my dad when we’re both so busy?)
- “Questions and Answers,” New Era, Jan. 2003, 17. (I argue with my parents all the time. I love them, but we just don’t seem to get along. What can I do?)
- “Talking with Dad” New Era, Feb. 2008, 12.
- Shanna Butler, “How to Talk to Your Parents,” New Era, June 2005, 30.
- Gordon B. Hinckley, “Love at Home,” New Era, Oct. 1999, 4.
- Larry A. Hiller, “The Truth about Parents,” New Era, June 1991, 23.
- JeaNette Goates Smith, “Declaring Your Independence,” New Era, Mar. 1990, 49.
- Anganette Jennings, “How I Get along with My Family,” New Era, May 1989, 8.
- Chris Crowe, “How to Talk to Your Parents,” New Era, Feb. 1989, 14.