Self Respect is an essential element in human life without which we cannot face this world successfully. With self-respect, you can conquer the world. Without it, you are defeated. It should be your firm belief that you are worthy to yourself and to your community.
If you suffer from feeling of inferiority, understand how this feeling has come about, why it persists in your life and take practical steps to be free from such feelings.
A person felt bad in the presence of other people. When it is analyzed, it was found that as a young boy he had a humiliating experience at a party. Later he tried to forget about it. But the experience had stayed with him. A great deal of inferiority feeling is an expression of earlier humiliation. A small girl was sure of her mother’s affection. The one ambition of her infant life was to be accepted and loved by her mother. To her surprise, a brother was born. She developed the feeling that her mother does not love her. And so inferiority feeling troubled her. Her Self Respect went down.
What does a child do when, in his search for satisfaction finds himself humiliated? He turns the energies that would normally go into fulfillment and happiness and employs them in his rebellion. As he cannot find fulfillment in acceptance and love, secretly he becomes the enemy of those who trouble him. And in rebellion he gets a kind of satisfaction.
As he can not get his joy of being admired, he will suffer until his heart suffers with pain. This practice becomes habit forming. You must break this pattern of life at all costs. As a child, you felt yourself rejected and therefore worthless. This was your first mistake. It is this first error you must rectify. Now, repeatedly, you must tell yourself you are wanted and loved. You must break the feeling of humiliation and revenge by understanding its origin and by giving up the habit that rooted itself in your life.
You must create a new pattern of life. You can not do it in a day. Constantly the old pattern of worthlessness will try to assert itself again. But you must continue to try and overcome such feeling. Tell yourself that you are as good as anyone else. Insist on happiness and fulfillment. Build a new habit of thought and experience. Develop feelings of hope, of optimism and of happiness. Start every day by strengthening your determination. This will strengthen your Self Respect.
Make sure what your real desires are. Do you really want happiness, affection and success? Work this out every morning before you start the day. Once the have the right burning desires coupled with determination, the way to freedom is in your hands.
Believe in yourselves. Increase your self-respect and appreciate your value. Know you are wanted and love. Start life afresh knowing that the new satisfaction of love and acceptance are richer in reward.Self Respect is what should have from the beginning of our life.
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Young people are told so often that self-respect is very important, and that they need it for many different reasons. The amount of self-respect we have varies greatly; some people have too little and perhaps some have too much. It’s necessary to examine why self-respect is important, and whether there is anything else more vital for a person’s happiness and well-being.
The primary reason that people need self-respect is that without it, they will be unhappy and not take care of themselves. Without self-respect, many people will fail to realize that what they want and need in life does actually matter, and because of this, they will go through life being miserable. They are also more likely to take risks with their health and the law, because they don’t think that their life is worth all that much, or that people don’t care what happens to them. Self-respect is necessary to having a happy and satisfying life, so everybody needs to have respect for themselves.
The second important reason that people need self-respect is that you need to respect yourself before anyone else will respect you. If someone has so little self-respect and self-esteem that they are unable to stand up for themselves, no one is going to respect them. One very good example of this is the case of peer pressure. A young person who gives in to everything will not be respected by their peers at all: simply expected to do the next big thing that they’re pressured to do. People who care about themselves will care enough about the body and their life to refuse things that they don’t want to do. Because of this, they will not only be able to demand respect from their peers, but also live a happier, healthier life where they don’t do everything just to please others.
However, having plenty of self-respect is no good if it totally outweighs the level of respect that we have for others. Respect is a two-way street, and if you don’t treat other people with the respect they deserve, you may respect yourself but nobody else will. Take teachers, for example. They have to earn respect and if they treat their students with respect, they will get it in return. If they just demand it without deserving it, however, nobody will respect them at all.
In conclusion, there’s no doubt that self-respect is important. We need a certain amount to get what we need out of life, and get the respect that we need from others. But, respecting others is equally important. Ultimately, if the world were a more respectful place, where we respected ourselves and those around us, it would be a happier place.